Childhood trauma culminates in disempowering subconscious patterns in the developing mind…
And plays a role in the development of adult dysfunction.
Unfortunately, we all carry these psychological loads, burdens which significantly inhibit future growth.
Often the sense of lack we experience and the feeling of ‘not being enough’ can be re-triggered in a range of situations.
A job rejection in later life might exacerbate a primal fear of adolescent abandonment, for example.
Such reactions are frequently deep-seated and rarely productive.
The emotional and psychological void signifies an absence of self-love, which taints future relationships.
So how do we deal with it?
The self-acceptance process
While we can’t change our past, we can modify our self-perception in the present to enhance our future.
The process begins with recognition and reflection.
You see, it’s hard to alter our worldview without analysing our current behaviours and their possible origins.
It’s best to begin with areas where we repeatedly experience sub-optimal outcomes.
If we’re consistently sucked into the same unproductive relationships, for example, it’s worth questioning why.
- Are we behaving according to a childhood blueprint?
- Is this automatic response still serving us in later life?
Reflective practice may be best achieved by journaling, increasing objectivity over intimate subject matter.
Threads of recognition will likely emerge to inform an ongoing self-acceptance process.
Developing such awareness within our daily lives magnifies our emotional reactions and psychological responses.
Meditation also plays an essential part, making us understand the inner mechanics of our mind.
Infusing our days with mindfulness allows us to observe our kneejerk psychological reactions dispassionately.
Often initial recognition and ongoing awareness are the catalysts to breaking these mental patterns which bind us.
But be aware, they take practice.
You’re attempting to uncover a deep-rooted, identity-defining illusion, present for years.
Although great emotional relief and mental unburdening result for many, others may find the process painful.
Disabusing ourselves of cherished notions isn’t always clean, but remains essential in achieving a happy, peaceful, prosperous existence.