{"id":4616,"date":"2020-11-30T15:39:16","date_gmt":"2020-11-30T15:39:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bloomsoup.com\/?p=4616"},"modified":"2021-09-19T15:15:04","modified_gmt":"2021-09-19T15:15:04","slug":"acting-out-of-character","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bloomsoup.com\/acting-out-of-character\/","title":{"rendered":"Acting out of Character (to Achieve Your Goals)"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
Acting out of character usually carries a negative connotation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In this article, I want to put a different spin on it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Behaviour modification is the foundation of a growth mindset<\/a> and positive transformation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It’s a process which must be embraced, despite the discomfort of breaking free from your current avatar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Let’s take a look.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Identity formation begins in childhood as thoughts and beliefs accumulate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n We strive to maintain that self-image into adulthood, even if it’s not in our best interest, clinging to bad habits and unhelpful behaviours.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In a film or book, a protagonist rarely acts counter to their motivations or out of alignment with their role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Similarly, our minds seeking cognitive harmony in real life, encouraging behaviour consistent with our self-image.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Furthermore, it’s preferable to remain in the role we’ve created due to the discomfort of breaking character to try something new.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The only problem? Our identity, formed during adolesence, often doesn’t make for the best movie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Just as a director would modify a character to improve the end result, we must give ourselves similar permission to edit our story.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Fortunately, as a mind-made phenomenon, our narrative isn’t fixed and change is possible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Firstly, we must decide which parts of our movie need editing:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Secondly, we can identify activities we’re hesitant to pursue by finishing the following sentences:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Surface level, your completed sentences might sound like legitimate, valid reasons for inactivity. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Let’s say you don’t believe you can start a business, for example. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Now, examine the basis for this belief. Have you ever tried? How many times?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sure, you might not even enjoy running a business, but why use a false belief to deny yourself the opportunity if it’s something you want to try?<\/p>\n\n\n\n That would be a cop-out, your present character self-sabotaging a potential storyline before it’s even begun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n However, the real culprit for inaction is often fear<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Constantly test your existing character by questioning the validity of your assumptions\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n Then intentionally experience that which you resist to see where you stand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This is why I like 30-day challenges<\/a>, because they allow us to dip our toes in the water of behaviour change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A couple of personal examples:<\/p>\n\n\n\nYour present avatar<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
How to decide when to break character<\/h2>\n\n\n\n