{"id":4496,"date":"2020-11-06T17:28:16","date_gmt":"2020-11-06T17:28:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bloomsoup.com\/?p=4496"},"modified":"2021-09-19T15:22:21","modified_gmt":"2021-09-19T15:22:21","slug":"optimal-self-confidence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bloomsoup.com\/optimal-self-confidence\/","title":{"rendered":"Optimal Self-Confidence: Building Belief"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

We all want optimal self-confidence. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Too high and it becomes arrogance. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Too low and it becomes a neurosis. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But it’s a fine balancing act; one that determines the quality of our personal and professional relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Check out The Confidence Gap<\/a> if you want to dive deeper down the psychological rabbit hole).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Self-esteem<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Self confidence starts to form in childhood, the nurturing we receive in this critical developmental period frequently dictating how we feel as adults. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Childhood trauma or the lack of emotional support during our younger years can cause a crippling loss of self-belief with significant negative effects. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

While people might intermittently be overconfident, a lack of self-esteem seems more prevalent. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Symptomatically, this might present as social shyness, anxiety, overthinking and decision-making<\/a> difficulties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Low self belief often results in constant second-guessing. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Firstly, it can seem almost impossible to make a decision, often because we don’t trust ourselves enough to make the right one. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we do act, it’s from a place of constant fear, anticipating impending failure at every turn. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This becomes a sort of self-fulfilling prophecy, as we incite the worst-case scenario, bringing it into being. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even when we do muster sufficient courage, low self-confidence creates high sensitivity to external opinion as we constantly try to meet extrinsic expectations, berating ourselves for falling short.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While we can obviously unpack our psychological history with the help of a trained professional, it’s also important to take personal control where possible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Optimal self-confidence<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Let’s consider for a moment, how optimal self confidence might look.<\/p>\n\n\n\n