{"id":3753,"date":"2020-04-16T06:37:53","date_gmt":"2020-04-16T06:37:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bloomsoup.com\/?page_id=3753"},"modified":"2021-09-19T15:51:50","modified_gmt":"2021-09-19T15:51:50","slug":"the-four-agreements-don-miguel-ruiz","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bloomsoup.com\/the-four-agreements-don-miguel-ruiz\/","title":{"rendered":"The Four Agreements Summary (Don Miguel Ruiz)"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
– Addresses self-limiting beliefs that create suffering<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Based on ancient Toltec wisdom<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Provides a powerful code of conduct<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– For anyone needing a change in their life, with more happiness, love, freedom and truth<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Don Miguel Ruiz<\/a> is Mexican and despite many hardships, became a successful neurosurgeon. After a near-fatal car crash, he changed the course of his life, studying ancient Aztec wisdom and apprenticing as a Shaman.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cChildren are domesticated the same way that we domesticate a dog, a cat, or any other animal. Ruiz says that we’re taught how to live through conditioning. Instead of taking cues from others, we must learn to trust ourselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The Four Agreements provide a way to transcend this social conditioning. \u201cThe first agreement is the most important one and also the most difficult one to honor. It is so According to Ruiz, impeccability means ‘without sin’. \u201cWhatever happens around you, don\u2019t take it personally\u2026 if I see you on the street and say, \u2018Hey, you are so stupid,\u2019 without knowing you, it\u2019s not about you; it\u2019s about me.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n This point draws on the teachings of Stoic philosophy<\/a> and reminds us to only focus on what’s within our control. \u201cNothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Therefore, we’re only responsible for our own actions, not those of others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n “The problem with making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth. We could swear they are real. We make Often assumptions are through a lack of awareness and understanding on our part. \u201cThe way to keep yourself from making assumptions is to ask questions. Make sure the communication is clear. If you don\u2019t understand, ask. Have the courage to ask questions until you are as clear as you can be.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cThere is just one more agreement, but it\u2019s the one that allows the other three to become deeply ingrained habits. The fourth agreement is about the action of the first three: Always do your best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Points to note:<\/p>\n\n\n\n We’re not perfect and will intermittently falter with the first three agreements. \u201cUnder any circumstance, always do your best, no more and no less.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cThe first step toward personal freedom is awareness. We need to be aware that we are not free in order to be free. We need to be aware of what the problem is in order to solve the problem.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n In order to be free, we need to know the problem. Therefore, the first step to freedom is awareness<\/a>. \u201cThere are many strong beliefs in the mind that can make this process look hopeless. This is why you need to go step-by-step and be patient with yourself because this is a slow process.”<\/p>\n\n\n\nConditioning<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
In order to teach a dog we punish the dog and we give it rewards. We train our children whom we love so much the same way that we train any domesticated animal: with a system of punishment and reward.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Society defines what’s acceptable and our behaviour is manipulated through reward and punishment.
Behave in an acceptable way to others and society at large and we’re rewarded. Behave badly and we’re punished.
Learning how to judge has consequences:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Our most important pledges are to ourselves and the pride we create in fulfilling these pledges is the ultimate source of personal growth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n1. Be impeccable with your word <\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
important that with just this first agreement you will be able to transcend to the level of existence
I call heaven on earth.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A sin in anything which goes against ourselves.
Whenever blame or judge ourselves, we create a personal sin.
Being impeccable is not going against yourself. You take responsibility for your actions<\/a> and don’t blame or judge.
In practice, this means:<\/p>\n\n\n\n2. Don\u2019t take anything personally <\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
if we judge ourselves by others thoughts and opinions, we’re giving away our personal power.
People don’t act because of us, but because of themselves.
When we take things personally, we’re in effect, imprinting our world on theirs.
In effect, these people are living their own story, in their own mind.
Before this realisation, we tend to defend our beliefs and create conflicts.
The reality is that the opinions we hold of ourselves are often mistaken.
If we can’t even always trust our own opinions to be truthful, how can we expect the same of others.
By not taking things personally, we naturally avoid many negative emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n3. Don\u2019t make assumptions <\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
assumptions about what others are doing or thinking\u2014we take it personally\u2014then we blame them and react by sending emotional poison with our word.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The result? We assume that everyone shares our worldview and create conflict when they don’t.
To avoid this pitfall, we must ask for clarification.
Clarification can be gained by communicating clearly and asking questions,<\/p>\n\n\n\n3. Always do your best<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
However, doing our best is the foundation upon which they’re built, so even when we slip, we can feel good about ourselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\nThe Four Agreements summary<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Each time we face one of our fears, we become a little freer.
Every time we realise our beliefs are open to interpretation, we can change.
But it’s a slow process and we can’t expect results overnight,<\/p>\n\n\n\n